An Existential Crises occurs when you factor in that the world is a scary place, and that we will all die. The other major thing is probably your thoughts and feelings. If my assessment of your situation is at least close to right, then Honey, you are currently challenged with changing your thoughts and attitude towards life. You have to practice staring the meaninglessness and fearful aspects of life right in the face, accepting them, and choosing to live despite them!
Be patient with yourself however, as you must properly feel and pay attention to your emotions towards life, in order to accept and heal them. Again, you must practice consciously choosing to live your life despite the fear and meaninglessness.
Focusing on your hobbies and interest will help this a lot. The information Ariana posted above is also very useful and will help you! You must be logged in to reply to this topic. Please log in OR register. This site is not intended to provide and does not constitute medical, legal, or other professional advice.
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Viewing 6 posts - 1 through 6 of 6 total. January 11, at am Dear honey: I would like to understand better, therefore I ask: approximately how old are you and are you living with your parents while going to.. If so, how does it feel to live with your parents, how are your relationships with them? January 11, at pm January 12, at am Ariana Participant.
Much of the internet experience is based around instant gratification. As a result, the average attention span is shortening. This makes it harder to engage in more difficult activities that may provide meaning, excitement, or real entertainment.
It takes time to master any endeavor. The idea behind chronic dissatisfaction is that a person is regularly unhappy with the way their life is going or their current trajectory.
We cannot escape all examples of everyday monotony. No one likes to stand in lines, waste their time sitting in traffic, or attempt to act interested in pointless meetings. The ugly truth is, no one is ever going to be happy all the time. Perhaps the person has lived a quiet life, bouncing from meaningless job to meaningless job, shallow friendship to shallow friendship, hollow relationship to hollow relationship.
That hollowness can fuel many unhealthy behaviors and illnesses — including drug and alcohol abuse, depression, and anxiety. Those empty feelings can cause a person to engage in self-destructive behavior just to try to break up the tediousness of their life. One must take time to rest and recuperate before they plunge into another hobby, venture, or adventure. Pacing oneself is important. The idea of a meaningful life is one that provides personal satisfaction, a sense of accomplishment, and some degree of happiness.
Contrary to social media and vocal opinions, one should be wary of lumping happiness in with meaning. It would be strange to think one would find their happiness in struggle and the darker side of life, but some people do. Some people thrive on it. Some prefer to be in conflict and fighting for something that means something to them, to be a part of something larger than themselves.
And in turn, that provides them some degree of personal satisfaction and happiness, but it would be unwise to expect it.
For some, it will be working a career they are happy and excited with having. Others may find their meaning in cultivating and growing a loving family.
Some may find it in service to others or the vulnerable. Artists may find it in creation. Scientists may find it in discovery. There are an infinite number of routes, all of which are viable to some degree. There is no set, singular path to happiness, meaning, and feeling content with life. Your path is going to be unique to you. It sounds contrived, but the only way for you to truly figure out what provides happiness, contentment, and meaning in your life is to actively engage in life and do things.
Get a library card, read or listen to some books. Do some volunteer work with the disadvantaged or animals. Be a mentor to someone who is looking to find their way.
Take an art course at a local community center. These things are all relatively inexpensive ways to grow as a person and experience new things without taking selfies at Machu Picchu or being mobbed by con artists and street vendors in Cairo.
The most important thing is to do stuff. Anything is better than nothing. The idealists, the artists, the free thinkers may find themselves bored and confined with the sometimes rigorous structure of social conformity. The box is a comfortable place for some people.
There are people out there who are more than happy to adopt the traditional perspective of what society expects from them because it offers a clear path, one that they believe will provide them with happiness and contentment. Even worse, society likes to heap shame, criticism, and derision on anyone that decides to stand out from the crowd and question the status quo.
The unfortunate truth is that this is unlikely to change. A free spirit is likely to stagnate and wither in a repressive, structured environment like a corporate hierarchy or as a stay-at-home parent. Can they do these things? People can do plenty of things they are not necessarily suited for. Should they? Well, that is a question that can only be answered by that individual.
Even if they do, they are going to need to be able to flex their creativity and spirit if they want to stay interested and engaged in life. That may mean a yearly vacation to some place interesting, art or dance classes, or something to really encourage the core of their spirit and provide intellectual stimulation.
Before you can figure out the most appropriate ways to combat your boredom, you ought to examine the root causes of it. Are you simply bored by the monotony of your life? Is your life boring because the people in your life bore you?
Is there nothing in your future to get excited by? The more you can hone in on the cause s of your boredom with life, the more targeted you can be when you go out and engage with it.
Volunteer work is an excellent way to branch out, meet new people, and contribute something positive to the world. There are many organizations that need everything from casual to skilled labor. You might even be able to put your professional skills and knowledge to work for a meaningful cause. Another option is to join a professional organization related to your field. It helps not only to break up the boredom and monotony, but to network with new individuals who you may be able to develop professional relationships with.
There are a lot of ways to go about developing a new set of skills. The internet is packed with videos and guides on how to get started in different activities. College coursework provides structure, guidance, and access to someone who is knowledgeable about the skill you are learning about. Where do you find new friends? There may be local activities going on where you can meet other people from your area or hobby groups that feature regular meet ups.
Religious individuals may want to attend regular services or activities hosted by their place of worship. It can be as simple as heading out of town to some function where you can have a good time and relax.
They may even find that they made the wrong choice in what career to pursue and need to look at other options. Some are simply too demanding of time or emotional energy. Others may not provide enough stimulation or give you the room to grow that you really want. Doctors are calling a sedentary lifestyle the new smoking in regard to health risks. It seems unlikely that I will achieve anything — learn a language, write a novel — during a long winter indoors that I did not achieve the first time.
The sociologist Martin Doehlemann lays out four types of boredom: situative boredom, the temporary kind you might feel when your flight is delayed; the boredom of satiety, when you have had enough of the same thing; existential boredom, when life feels empty; and creative boredom, which forces you to do something new.
I have experienced all four over the past six months. Avoiding hard graft, the Romantics sought to evade boredom by chasing individual pleasure — unspecified, limitless, transgressive pleasure; they could devour the whole world and not be full. During this pandemic I have had plenty of time for both work and pleasure, yet boredom still permeates.
I wonder if my boredom is not new, but simply uncovered by the forcible removal of my choicest distractions. It puts your life into perspective, and the net result is precisely insight and humility.
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